What does Judges 14:4 mean?
This is arguably the most important statement in Samson's entire story. It is both confusing and comforting—it also helps to explain why someone designated for service to God so often acted in ungodly ways. God's plan to make use of Samson for His purposes included leveraging Samson's own rebellion and foolishness. Samson could not escape God's will for his life even by directly disobeying God's commands. This does not mean God blessed him "for" his sin—Samson will live a chaotic and scandalous life, eventually suffering greatly for his mistakes (Judges 16:21).During these times of unrest, however, neither Samson nor his parents knew God's plan. They did not see how Samson's stubborn rebellious foolishness would create opportunity for victory over the Philistines oppressing Israel. God finds what He seeks—always (Job 42:2)—even when His people make wrong choices. He will use Samson's rebellion to begin to end the era of the Philistines. Samuel, a judge-turned-prophet, will be the one to complete this task (1 Samuel 7:12–14).
Samson has demanded his parents arrange his marriage to a specific Philistine woman. They have objected, saying he should marry an Israelite woman instead of allying with the uncircumcised Philistines (Deuteronomy 7:1–5; Judges 14:1–3). He stubbornly refused, and they will comply (Judges 14:5).