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ESV: A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

NIV: One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

NASB: A person of too many friends comes to ruin, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

CSB: One with many friends may be harmed, but there is a friend who stays closer than a brother.

NLT: There are 'friends' who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother.

KJV: A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.

NKJV: A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Merely having large numbers of "friends" does not always mean having many deep, committed allies in times of need. In this context, a "man of many companions" suggests a person who seeks popularity and shallow relationships. When times are good, those kinds of associates can be a source of pride, or entertainment. But when times are rough, one finds out quickly who their true friends really are. Even a person well-known and popular can find themselves on hard times, made all the harder when their relationships are superficial.

This proverb is echoed in the English expression "a friend in need is a friend, indeed." The meaning is that being willing to meet another person's need is a sign of true friendship. False and shallow companions don't act like friends, at all, when the relationship might cost them something. When the prodigal son was wasting his inheritance on a raucous lifestyle, he probably had a wide circle of "companions," just in the sense mentioned in this proverb. However, when he was penniless, he "began to be in need" (Luke 15:14). Consequently, he took a lowly job feeding pigs (Luke 15:15). His plight was so bad that he longed to eat what the pigs ate, but no one gave him anything (Luke 15:16). Whatever throng of party mates he might have had before, none of them were there to help when he was in desperate straits.

True friends can be even more loyal than blood family. Although Solomon's observation identifies anyone who is a true friend in time of trouble, the description certainly fits the Lord Jesus. He is the believer's close, true Friend, who promised, "I will never leave you nor forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5).

Proverbs 18:16–24 provides practical advice on a variety of matters. Other proverbs in this chapter are echoed in statements about objectivity and unity. Solomon addresses areas such as bribery, quarrels, reconciliation, the power of speech, marriage, and an unfortunate difference between the poor and the rich. The last remark in the section notes the difference between quality and quantity in friendships.

This segment of Solomon's wise sayings includes several well-known and often-repeated remarks. Among these are references to God's "name" as a place of safety, the connection between pride and catastrophe, the value of a godly spouse, and the intimate loyalty of a good friend. As in other parts of the book of Proverbs, these teachings are tied to warnings about the consequences of poor decisions.

Chapter 18 continues a long string of wise sayings attributed to Solomon. These began in chapter 10 and will continue through chapter 22. This section contains numerous references to fair-mindedness and seeking out truth from multiple sources. Diligent responsibility—in words, actions, and beliefs—is a notable emphasis in this segment.

Proverbs is best understood in context with the books of Ecclesiastes and Job. In Proverbs, “wisdom” is given in short, simple, general terms. Ecclesiastes represents wisdom based on observation and experience. This often shows how the general principles of the book of Proverbs don’t apply in absolutely every circumstance. Job represents wisdom based on the experience of suffering and injustice. All three come to the conclusion that God does indeed know best, and the most sensible course of action is to follow His will.